Who Am I, Really? Who Are You, Really? Resources and Thoughts on Personal and Spiritual Growth. Some Rules to Live By. Some Inspirational Quotes.

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Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Monday, December 14, 2009

What Do Labrinths and Life Coaching Have in Common?

I found this fascinating quote today:

The attentive audience gathered around for the short orientation to the labyrinth. I explain, “Labyrinths are amazing and versatile tools. People who walk them often experience an almost magical meshing of their analytical or rational mind with their intuitive and spiritual consciousnesses. From this altered state of consciousness, we can amplify our intuition, clarify complex questions, create incredible possibilities, and connect deeply to Spirit.” spiritualpreneurs.com, What Do Labyrinths and Life Coaching Have In Common?, Oct 2009

You should read the whole article.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Life Will Always Be Working Out for Me. . .

I like understanding that things are always evolving, and while there are many things that could be better where I am, it is not really a problem because "where I am" is constantly changing to something better. I like knowing that as I look for the best things around me where I am, those things become more prevalent in my experience.
It is fun to know that things are always working out for me, and as I watch for the evidence of that . . . I see more evidence of that every day.
--- Abraham
Excerpted from the book "Money and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Health, Wealth and Happiness" #256
Our Love,
Jerry and Esther Hicks

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Relieve Pain the Natural Way

The Water Cure: An interview with Dr. Batmanghelidj

More information on how as we age we lose our ability to detect thirst.:

Monday, August 24, 2009

Joyous Benefits - Or - Benefits of Joy

Every cell in your body has a direct relationship with Creative Life Force, and each cell is independently responding. When you feel joy, all the circuits are open and the Life Force or God Force can be fully received. When you feel guilt or blame or fear or anger, the circuits are hindered and the Life Force cannot flow as effectively. Physical experience is about monitoring those circuits and keeping them as open as possible. The cells know what to do. They are summoning the Energy.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Chicago, IL on Sunday, November 2nd, 1997 #197

Our Love,
Jerry and Esther Hicks

Friday, August 14, 2009

Become More of Who you Truly Are

If we had more Don Tolmans in this country, we would not be overweight, have diabetes, heart problems, and a medical - pharmaceutical complex that takes billions out of our economy each year. He Rocks!

Don Tolman

A Modern Day "Einstein" of Self-Care & Self-Education...

Don Tolman has been referred to as a modern day "Einstein".

When you experience his raw genius for the first time and the

brilliantly captivating way in which he delivers his profound

message, you'll see why.

Don will take you on a truly amazing journey of discovery by

introducing two major revolutions that are upon us - Self-Care and

Self-Education. The centrepiece of his powerful message is an

understanding as to how you can live a life free from disease by

embracing the 7 Principles of Health.

Don has worked with some of the world's most prestigious cancer

institutes throughout his journey. Called in by Doctors to provide

alternative perspectives to traditional treaments and therapy, he

has guided countless patients ‘written off’ by the medical system

back to full recovery.

Don is also an expert in creating applied pre-imagined curriculums

of accelerated learning where he teaches adults and children to

maximise their learning, creativity and achievement through


Known to thousands as a brilliant public speaker, Don has travelled

the globe delivering his unique and empowering presentations. He

has been a return guest on the Donahue Show, Entertainment

Tonight and ABC Talk Radio in the US and Mornings with

Kerri-Anne in Australia. TV talk show host, Phil Donahue, stated

upon Don appearing on his show, “Like what he says or not; it’s

people like Don Tolman who, in their own unique way, will impact

social change.”

His revolutionary discoveries in the field of whole food nutrition

earned him the right to speak at some of the world's leading health

and technology organisations such as the Massachusetts Institute

of Technology (MIT), the Health Research Academy at Cornell

University in New York City and the prestigious Johns Hopkins

Hospital in Baltimore.

Don’s commitment to learning about health and the human body is

evidenced by the fact that he has completed a 40 day, water-only

fast, 3 times and has also inspired many others through this

incredible, ‘health-transforming’ experience.

In 2006, in Australia he jammed switchboards after appearing on

Channel 10 and in New Zealand a planned 5 minute TV interview

on The Good-Morning Show extended for 35 minutes, such was the

interest in what Don had to say.

Don is a distinguished communications facilitator and

vocabulary-enhancement trainer. He has studied in-depth, areas of

applied behavioral and cognitive science, as well as neurology,

semiotics, operant conditioning and Gestalt Theorem.

Through his experimentation with nutrition and extended fasting

and his experience in applying the 7 Principles of Health to many

terminally ill patients over many years, Don has also made it his

mission to inform people about how to de-mystify disease and live

a healthy life full of happiness and vitality.

In 2006, after 3 years in the making, Don released his much

awaited, 1,600 page, 2 volume, encyclopedia of wholefood

medicine, the Farmacist Desk Reference. Today, Don travels the

globe sharing the wisdom of Self-Care and Self-Education with

thousands of people through his events and programs.

One of the venues from which Don speaks:

Don's Facebook page:

Samantha Backman interviews Don in the following eight Utube

segments on principles of health and healing:


"Wheel of Life" the movie Website:
What if.....everything you learned about life was wrong?

New website almost completed:
features short biographies of the 18 speakers in the movie

Friday, July 17, 2009

Saturday, July 4, 2009

On Being Happy

We are really advocates of just getting as happy as you can be — which takes care of everything. Even if you don't have reason to be happy — make it up. Fantasize it. Make a decision that you're going to be happy one way or another — no matter what. "No matter what, I'm going to be happy! If I have to ignore everybody; if I have to never watch television again; if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I'm going to be happy. If I never have to see that person's face again, I'm going to be happy. If I have to see that person's face, I'm going to find something to see in that person's face that makes me happy. I'm going to be happy. I'm going to be happy. I'm going to be happy."

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Sacramento, CA on Saturday, March 15th, 2003

Our Love,
Jerry and Esther

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Wealth Creation

Once you are able to achieve and consistently maintain your personal alignment, a great deal of money will flow into your experience (if that is your desire).

Do not let others set the standards about how much money you should have— or about what you should do with it— for you are the only one who could ever accurately define that. Come into alignment with who-you-really-are, and allow the things that life has helped you to know that you want to flow into your experience.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the book "Money and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Health, Wealth and Happiness"

by Esther and Jerry Hicks

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Healing the Hearts of Humanity 2009

The Ripple Effect: The Heartbeat to Eternity

How Grass and Trees Become Enlightened

How Grass & Trees Become Enlightened

During the Kamakura period, Shinkan studied Tendai six years and then studied Zen seven years; then he went to China and contemplated Zen for thirteen years more.

When he returned to Japan many desired to interview him and asked obscure questions. But when Shinkan received visitors, which was infrequently, he seldom answered their questions.

One day a fifty-year-old student of enlightenment said to Shinkan: "I have studied the Tendai school of thought since I was a little boy, but one thing in it I cannot understand. Tendai claims that even the grass and trees will become enlightened. To me this seems very strange."

"Of what use is it to discuss how grass and trees become enlightened?" asked Shinkan. "The question is how you yourself can become so. Did you ever consider that?"

"I never thought of it in that way," marveled the old man.

"Then go home and think it over," finished Shinkan.

Friday, June 19, 2009

Want to Go Through Eight Turbocharged Lifetimes in a Day?

user-pic Want to Go Through Eight Turbocharged Lifetimes in a Day?
By: Bean Jones

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Tuesday, April 14, 2009

A Call For Conscious Evolution

A Call to Conscious Evolution
Sponsored by: Evolutionary Leaders
The Obama administration has contacted the Evolutionary Leaders Counsel to solicit a visionary
statement on how to transform our planet. Their brilliant response is below. If these luminous
principles resonate with you, please copy the link below into your computer web browser
to sign on as a supporter of their letter of intent.
President Obama asked that any statement made by the Counsel be supported by at least
10,000 signatures; the goal is 100,000.  Our current count is over 35,000.  We can gather at least a million signatures, since we Cultural Creatives now comprise one-fourth of the U.S. adult population! So please spread the news.
As the Hopi Elders predicted, that "We are the ones we've been waiting for." Now it's time
for us to stand up and be counted.

Statement By the Evolutionary Leaders
The human family is in the midst of the
most significant transformation of consciousness
since its emergence in Africa over one hundred
thousand years ago. Consciousness has been
evolving for billions of years from the first cell
to us. We are becoming aware that through our
own consciousness the universe can know itself.
This awareness reveals incredible new potential
for our individual and collective humanity.
Simultaneously, we are the first species on
this Earth aware that we can destroy ourselves
by our own action. This may be the greatest
wake-up call to the evolution of consciousness
since the origin of Homo sapiens.
We now realize that we are affecting our
own evolution by everything we do. This knowledge
awakens in us the aspiration to become
more conscious through subjective practices including
meditation, reflection, prayer, intuition,
creativity, and conscious choice making that accelerate
our evolution in the direction of unity
consciousness and inspire us to deeply align our
collective vision.
At this juncture in human history, urgent
global crises challenge us to learn to live sustainably,
in harmony and gratitude with one another
and with the living universe. The changes
required of humanity are broad, deep, and far
reaching. Only by acting swiftly and creatively
can we birth a planetary culture that will bring
well-being to every form of life in the Earth community.
The good news is that a compelling new
story of our potential as a whole human species
is emerging - a story of collaboration, citizen action,
dialogue and new understandings propelled
by unprecedented levels of democratic freedom,
multicultural exchange, and access to communication
technologies. It is nothing less than the
story of our collective evolution.
We recognize that the inner and outer aspects
of life evolve together. A dramatic awakening
in consciousness will involve an equally
dramatic shift in outward aspects of our lives. In
particular, we see the following as vital opportunities
for our conscious evolution, both personally
and collectively:
Cultivating a Paradigm of Aliveness: We regard
the universe as deeply alive and conscious
by nature. In a living universe, our sense of subtle
connection and participation with life around us
is the basis for a compassionate and cooperative
approach to living.
Educating for an Evolving Consciousness:
Awakening consciousness is the foundation for all
the change we seek to see in the world. We can
work to elevate our capacity for conscious reflection
and creative action in our personal lives
as well as our collective lives as communities. We
must support research and educational strategies
that optimize human capacities and explore the
nature of consciousness.
Restoring Ecological Balance: The balance
of planetary ecosystems is fundamental to our
survival. We must reverse the pollution of our
global commons - the water, air and soil that
nourish all life. We must encourage the proliferation
of clean, renewable energy sources and expend
all necessary resources toward mitigating
the effects of climate change.
Encouraging Conscious Media: We must find
innovative ways to use the new electronic media
as the mirror of our positive evolutionary story,
investing in their capacity to reach across differences
of generation, culture, religion, wealth, and
gender to build a working consensus about our
collective future.
Engaging in Social and Political Transformation:
More sustainable ways of living will require
the support of a more conscious democracy and
vibrant civil society from which more enlightened
leaders will emerge. All individuals should be encouraged
to use their gifts to create participatory,
responsible and compassionate models of governance.
Working for Integrity in Commerce: Conscious
businesses that are aware of the scope,
depth, and long-range impacts of their actions
are key to achieving sustainability. Business must
become an ethical steward of the Earth's ecology
and consciously establish an economic basis for a
future of equitably shared abundance.Promoting
Health and Healing: The science of mind-bodyspirit
health has demonstrated the profound connection
between the health of a whole person
and the health of the system in which he or she
lives. Whole systems healing, respecting both traditional
knowledge and modern sciences, must
be supported in physical, social, and spiritual domains.
Building Global Community: The new story
is about all of us who share this planet. Together,
we can create a culture of peace that eliminates
the need for armed conflict, respecting and appreciating
the glorious diversity of our human
Our group has done its best to articulate
possibilities for the evolution of consciousness
at this crucial moment in time. Please reflect on
this document, feel what resonates in your being
and calls forth a response on your part. We
invite you to discuss it with others, continuing this
global conversation by adding to it the wisdom
that is uniquely your own.Together, let us co-create
a new narrative of conscious evolution that is
a call to individual and collective action, birthing
the most significant transformation of consciousness
in history.
Join in the Call to Conscious Evolution by
signing the pledge now. See what others are saying,
sign the petition and/or write your own comments:

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Cleaning up My Part of the World

     These last several days have been used to clean, organize, re-organize, re-clean, polish, and add fragrance to all my spaces.  It is absolutely amazing what can be accomplished when the motivation is there to improve my small part of the world. 
     What was my motivation you ask?  Well, this lady smiled at me and asked if I would do one thing for her - would I Febreze my taxi so that it did not reek of cigarette smoke.  Voila - instant motivation to quit smoking.  LOL  So now that I have been a non smoker for what - has it been two weeks already?  Shampood carpet, cleaned all fabrics in apartment, lit incense sticks, burned fragrant candles, used Air purifier in taxi, shampood its carpet, everything is smelling of if not roses, then much better than heretofore.   BTW, I am more appealing in the fragrance department also. LOL

Wednesday, March 4, 2009


Want Love in Your Life?  Start Loving.

Saturday, February 28, 2009

The Poet

The Poet

"He is a link between this and the coming world. 
He is A pure spring from which all thirsty souls may drink. 
He is a tree watered by the River of Beauty, bearing 
Fruit which the hungry heart craves; 
He is a nightingale, soothing the depressed 
Spirit with his beautiful melodies; 
He is a white cloud appearing over the horizon, 
Ascending and growing until it fills the face of the sky. 
Then it falls on the flowers in the field of Life, 
Opening their petals to admit the light. 
He is an angel, send by the goddess to 
Preach the Deity's gospel; 
He is a brilliant lamp, unconquered by darkness 
And inextinguishable by the wind. It is filled with 
Oil by Istar of Love, and lighted by Apollon of Music. 
He is a solitary figure, robed in simplicity and 
Kindness; He sits upon the lap of Nature to draw his 
Inspiration, and stays up in the silence of the night, 
Awaiting the descending of the spirit. 
He is a sower who sows the seeds of his heart in the 
Prairies of affection, and humanity reaps the 
Harvest for her nourishment. 
This is the poet -- whom the people ignore in this life, 
And who is recognized only when he bids the earthly 
World farewell and returns to his arbor in heaven. 
This is the poet -- who asks naught of 
Humanity but a smile. 
This is the poet -- whose spirit ascends and 
Fills the firmament with beautiful sayings; 
Yet the people deny themselves his radiance. 
Until when shall the people remain asleep? 
Until when shall they continue to glorify those 
Who attain greatness by moments of advantage? 
How long shall they ignore those who enable 
Them to see the beauty of their spirit, 
Symbol of peace and love? 
Until when shall human beings honor the dead 
And forget the living, who spend their lives 
Encircled in misery, and who consume themselves 
Like burning candles to illuminate the way 
For the ignorant and lead them into the path of light? 
Poet, you are the life of this life, and you have 
Triumphed over the ages despite their severity. 
Poet, you will one day rule the hearts, and 
Therefore, your kingdom has no ending. 
Poet, examine your crown of thorns; you will 
Find concealed in it a budding wreath of laurel."
- Khalil Gibran 

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Getting to an Exceptional Life

     I want to share with you some thoughts I'm having this morning.  My life in the last few weeks has really become joyous, and I asked myself: What am I doing differently to create these wonderful days?  I suspect the following has a direct causal influence on the difference I am experiencing. 
     The first activity that I have incorporated into my daily activities is: Exercise.  I get a good start to each day by my morning walk.
     The next thing I do, almost from the moment I awake, and throughout the day is Giving Thanks: I thank God, Allah, Source, The Universe, Universal Mother, by whatever name fits for you, for all that I have, and appreciate all the people, material goods, Nature's bounty, and abundance that I now am Blessed to have. 
     The third, and probably the first I put into practice was a good healthy diet:  I eliminated meat and dairy products from my diet; not for religious purposes, purely for the harmful effects they produce in my body.  I also started eating mostly live foods, vegetables, fruits, nuts, seeds, grains.  (and I bless them both before and during meals)
      Another change was: The associations that I allow to be a part of my life: no longer am I willing to associate with Negative people or influences such as Most News Organizations, so I seldom watch the news, no longer spend 1 - 1/2 hours reading the NY Times daily.  Those I do associate with are those both virtual online, and in real life who are positive about life and living.  Those who are inspirational: Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Bob Proctor, James Ray, John Assaraf, and many others too numerous to mention.
     When my TV blew up, I realized that almost all of the time I was devoting to it was not adding anything really to my life's purpose; just a way of wasting those precious moments one by one.  I now use the new tv to watch inspirational or educational videos that are so much more valuable.  Did not bother to re-subscribe to the cable tv.  
     A result of all this is that now I constantly look for ways to contribute to others.  I became a giver.  (Let me share with you it is one heck of a lot more fun than being a taker, always looking out for "What's In It For Me").
     So, what's in my future?  At least one book, authored and published.  I'll be a motivational speaker, I am a darn good coach and continue to develop my coaching skills.  Women have re-appeared in my life, and that really is fun - been a long time absent in that area.  Or as some say in Texas YEEEEEEEE   HAAAAAAAAA.
     Oh, one activity that I know from past personal experience is most helpful is Meditation.  I shall be incorporating that into my life also.
     Isn't this life a wondrous journey?  (Even those parts that while going through them seemed to be the most horrible)

Monday, February 16, 2009

Your Future Experiences

Quote from Abraham - Hicks Publications: 

"We're going to give you a very powerful statement: Everything that you will some day live, in terms of life experience -- and by some day, we mean as soon as right now, tomorrow, the next day, or some day -- anything that you will some day live, you have first imagined. Because nothing will manifest in your experience without the imagination process happening first."

Excerpted from the workshop in Houston, TX on 
Saturday, January 5th, 2002

Our Love, 
Jerry and Esther Hicks

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Two Books

     I just today finished reading "Mastering The Seven Decisions" (That Determine Personal Success)
by Andy Andrews.  The seven decisions are simple, not necessarily easy for everyone, but when lived, will absolutely transform your life to one of Joy, Abundance, Excitement, Achievement, and Love.

This is a message from God: Read this Book.

     Andy includes exercises that I have not done, yet, but when completed will help me experientially internalize those decisions that will create for me in Jim Rohn's words: "An Exceptional Life"

"Andy teaches with humor and stories...the best way for most to learn the lessons that can change your business...and your life." 
--Rhonda Ferguson
President, Financial Concepts

     The second book, "Tribes" by Seth Godin I immediately loaned to my best friend recommending that he find the time to immediately read it as it outlines how the paradigm of our culture/society is shifting from an hierarchial to a networking paradigm.  How leaders are arising from any area of any structure that we now know and with a vision, are creating tribes that follow.

     My observation is that the seeming chaos we are seeing in the financial: (think global financial crisis) political: (think governor of Illinois), (Senator from Alaska) personal: (think foreclosures)(bankruptcies) business: (think Peanut Butter) is in reality a Cleansing.  We are seeing individuals and Businesses being forced to take responsibility for their actions.  
     At the same time we are seeing those leaders emerge from all areas who are Being Honest, Being Transparent, Being Accountable, and Leading us into a new world that must benefit us all.
     Only one word to say:  Hallelujah


Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Accepting Responsibility

     "I am where I am today-mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially-because of decisions I have made. My decisions have always been governed by my thinking. Therefore, I am where I am today-mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially-because of how I think. Today I will begin the process of changing where I am-mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially-by changing the way I think.

     My thoughts will be constructive, never destructive. My mind will live in the solutions of the future. It will not dwell in the problems of the past. I will seek the association of those who are working and striving to bring about positive changes in the world. I will never seek comfort by associating with those who have decided to be comfortable.

     When faced with the opportunity to make a decision, I will make one. I understand that God did not put in me the ability to always make right decisions. He did, however, put in me the ability to make a decision and then make it right. The rise and fall of my emotional tide will not deter me from my course. When I make a decision, I will stand behind it. My energy will go into making the decision. I will waste none on second thoughts. My life will not be an apology. It will be a statement.

     The buck stops here. I control my thoughts. I control my emotions."

 - Andy Andrews, from "The Travelers Gift, Seven Decisions That Determine Personal Success"

Monday, February 2, 2009

Listening to Your Inner Voice

When you come to the edge of all the light you know and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. - Barbara Winter

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Some Masters have already Gathered

     There are three things you need to know right now about
attracting your desires:
1. There are Four Stages of Awakening.
2. 90% of us remain stuck in the first stage of awakening.
3. It is impossible to achieve our desires in this first stage.
      But we only need to make a subtle but profound shift to move
into the second stage of awakening!
     One of the most recognized masters of "The Secret," Joe Vitale
helped me recognize this. And today, the folks over at The Masters
Gathering were able to grab Joe for a fascinating discussion on
The Four Stages of Awakening and it is guaranteed to generate at least
one powerful "AHA" for you.
     Grab This Free Video Right Now!
     I can promise you, this video is unlike anything you've seen.
If you loved what Joe had to say in "The Secret," imagine
listening to his insight and brilliance for more than 20
      And he goes deep with this one. Way beyond The Secret and
The Law of Attraction.
     Joe reveals the MUST DO process we have to begin before we
can make all the other stuff we've learned work.
     How do I know this? Well...
I have a confession to make...
     This is the secret weapon I've been using to build my business
and, more importantly, to build my life.
     It's what makes the difference between succeeding and just surviving.
    And Joe nails it in this video. It's some of the most profound advice
I've heard in a long time and its easy.
You'll discover:
* Why our attempts to manipulate our lives, our experience, and the
universe don't work, and a simple shift to opening the floodgates
to success.
(This one alone is priceless because most people misunderstand The
Law of Attraction. Joe clears this up for us.)
* How to use your own challenges to breed results. Most of us deny
or shy away from pain, but pain is a very spiritual place to be.
You can use your challenges to directly produce your desires!
That's actually what they're meant for.
* The secret to a happy life. This happens naturally as you progress
through the four stages of awakening.
     Discover the Four Stages to Awaken Success Now!
You're crazy if you don't jump all over this!  
     Also be sure to catch the other two videos available from The Masters
Gathering. Billionaire John Assaraf and "Millionaire-Maker" Loral
Langemeier round out this staggering collection of video interviews.
     If you haven't heard about The Masters Gathering yet, you will.
     (Though I have to ask, "Where the heck have you been the past week?!")
     These guys have somehow wrangled the biggest, brightest, and most
successful masters of business, personal transformation, health,
and more.
     But here's the kicker...
The Masters Gathering hasn't even pulled their Ace yet!
     You can take my word for it, the geniuses behind The Masters
Gathering will blow your mind with what they've cooked up.
     So take my advice and stay tuned!
     Word on the street is that a major announcement is coming next
week! But don't wait. In the meantime, you've got to check out
these videos.
Don't delay!

Monday, January 26, 2009

Choices - A Tribute to Ole Larsen

     One of my mentors, Ole Larsen, when he lived in Pensacola Beach three decades ago sported a personalized license plate: CHOICES.
      Ole was fond of employing experiential learnings in assisting others in their personal growth, as did Gurdjieff and other spiritual leaders.   One morning as I was sitting down for breakfast in his home in Pensacola Beach Florida Ole asked me: "David, If you could have anything you wanted for breakfast, what would that be?"  I don't recall my exact reply, however, I do recall the emotion that question engendered in me - somewhat embarrassed, hesitant to state what I really would like if anything was available, generally flummoxed.  
     I since have come to realize that all we have to do is ask for what we want.  With specifics.  Exactly how we want it to be.  And when we empower that asking with the emotion of desire, we can then give thanks, knowing the (universe) (God) (Spirit) has already started moving our request to us. 
     I never really acknowledged to Ole how much he gave me during the several years we interacted from time to time.  And I must acknowledge, that I am a slow learner in many areas.  Once, Ole said to me "David, you need to handle your money".  So, twenty six years later, I'm handling my money.  
     As I said, in some areas, I'm a slow learner.
     Thank You OLE

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Jim Rohn's Challenge

"Let others lead small lives, but not you.
Let others argue over small things, but not you.
Let others cry over small hurts, but not you.
Let others leave their future in someone else's hands,
but not you."

Jim Rohn

Saturday, January 17, 2009

Who Am I - Really?

Identity - Who are You?
by Peter Vajda, Ph.D, C.P.C.

"When I discover who I am, I'll be free"
- Ralph Ellison

"Identification" or "identity" is one way we use to define who we are. Either historically, or in the present moment, we come to view ourselves in some way, shape or form that identify "who I am." Identity can take the form of an image, an impression, an emotion or feeling, or a body sensation and make it one of the many building blocks that define "me." Forms of identity that we took on early in life or create in the present moment might include: I am a strong man; I am an optimist; I am an extrovert; I am a spiritual person; I am a happy person; I am a fearful person; I am a worrier; I am a manager; I am a parent, etc.

When we speak about "identity" what we are saying is that I AM this quality or image, even if I am not consciously aware of this quality or image in the moment, even if I am not speaking this to myself in the moment. It's a "given". This quality or image is part of the fabric of who I take myself to be, i.e., who I am. We believe it is True - with a capital T.

For example, let's use how we might identify with an emotion, anger. If I am identified with my anger (I am an angry person…quietly angry, usually seething, or overtly angry, usually very vocal in my anger…as a general way of being), then my response to a person, event or circumstance that I am experiencing says in some way, "I want to be angry," or "I need to be angry", or "I can justify my anger" or "I have a right to be angry", etc. and then proceed to act out on my anger. I identify with my anger. My anger is who I am.

If I am not identified with my anger, that is, seeing that I do get angry from time to time, but not being identified with my anger, I can witness the same person, event or circumstance and feel or sense my anger and say, "OK, so I feel some anger. It's here and it'll subside. I'll just be with it, observe it in me and allow it to dissipate" without having to "do" anything about it, i.e., act it out, or "get" angry.

Identification means we define ourselves by something. - I AM that something - that image, that emotion, that feeling. Who I believe I am is not separate from that quality or image.

Identification also means that I am invested in that quality. I have a conscious wanting or needing to be that quality or image.

So, one clue as to whether we are identified to a particular quality is look at how we respond to an event in the moment.

When we are identified by a quality, or an image (of who I am), we are taken over by that quality or image when we experience an event. It's a pull, like an addiction. We live much of our life addicted to having an identity, not wanting to be free of that identity and and are continually creating that identity. I am….(fill in the blank).

As we go through life, we take on, and shed, various identities.

We take on identities related to our work or career, identities related to being a man or woman, identities related to sports, education, spirituality, to our beauty, our nationality, to being a happy child or an abused child, to being the black sheep of the family - all identities which we want everyone to know. The deal is that we then believe that if we let go of our identity, we will be no one, we will lose our sense of "who I am" - we become disconnected from our True and Real self.

The Point?

When we came into the world we came in without any "identity" so to speak; we were a "tabla rosa", a clean slate. In that state, we were free, light, natural, easy, relaxed, simple (in the positive sense). This state, called presence, is still within us, still accessible. In a state of presence, we need no mental operations to create "who I am", i.e., we need no identifications. We just are. I am!

In this state of presence we have no need to "identify". We have a sense of confidence, groundedness and surety. However, when we let go of this state, when in the throes of stress, conflict, overwhelm, or confusion, we forget who we are and then sense the need to grasp on to an "identity" to make me feel safe.

When we don't trust our True and Real self, when we stray from the Essence of who we were when we came into this existence, our reactive inclination is to grab on to an image or identity of "who I am" and then shove this identity on to others to show them "I am (this or that)" - a need to be seen as this or that. In this place, we are not be-ing, we are not authentic, and we are not trusting of our Essential nature.

How to Disidentify

When we see that we are caught up in an identity, we can begin the process of letting go of it, not by efforting, not by "working" on it, but simply by becoming aware of it, noticing it, seeing it for what it is. As you become aware of the identity, observe it, watch it and witness it, it will begin to dissolve over time. If you are not willing to be free of your identification, then, yes, you are deeply identified. If you are willing to become free of your identification, slowly it will fall away.

Finally, you are not "bad" or "wrong" for having identifications. It's part of the developmental process of life. But it's not part of who we have to be. That's the choice.

When we are able to disassociate from our identities, then we can be more real, and more authentic in our everyday experiences - at work, at home, at play and in relationship.

So, Some Questions for Self-Reflection Are:

What identifications define you?
Who are you?
What reactions, attitudes, preferences, desires and attachments can help you recognize how you are identified?
How do you feel about your identifications?
Do your identifications constrain you in your everyday life experiences? How so?
When do you feel most free of identifications?
Who would you be and how would you feel if you were not (fill in with one of you identifications - an image, an emotion…)?
If you asked your best friend what s/he saw as your identifications, what would s/he say? Would you agree?
Why do you choose your identities? What do they "get" you?
Can you visualize having no identifications? What does that feel like?
How did you come to have the identifications you have?

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This article got me to thinking about my smoking addiction that I have struggled with 
for years.  I definitely identify with being a smoker.  I will use this information to
give up this horrible nasty addiction.  Will let you know when success is achieved.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Walking in Sunshine

     This morning is another of those wonderful clear blue sky days in New Orleans that makes my morning walk so pleasant and starts my day off with a bang.  I am so blessed to live in a climate where the winters are mild.  We very seldom have to deal with snow, as many in the northern states do.  
     On average, we get a snowfall about once every ten years; the last before this years two inches was on Christmas day 2004. That snowfall gave us enough snow to build a snowman from the snow in the yard that was six inches high. (with a hat composed of a soft drink bottle cap)

Saturday, January 3, 2009


2009 is starting off with a bang.  Earned more money in the last two days than I last year would have earned in a week.  Now to model that strategy for the coming days, weeks, and months of this year.  The Law of Attraction is proving itself to me.